We Are Magic

If you’re as old as I am, you will remember the skit on Saturday Night Live featuring Al Franken as Stuart Smalley, before his illustrious political career. Stuart was a character with a T.V. show called, “Daily Affirmations”, who looked into the mirror and said “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and Doggone it, people like me.” At the time, this cheesy, silly, fake show was funny because it was so crazy that you would have to tell yourself this everyday.

Welcome to the 21st century, when we really do need to tell ourselves that we no longer refuse to “beat ourselves up.” When we need to tell ourselves that we are worthy of our “share of happiness.” So many of us seem lost in some way, devoid of personal relationships that anchor us to daily life. Where did it all go wrong? I don’t know, and this is not a time or place to open that Pandora’s box, but affirmations are good….and they work.

Take for instance the story of Jim Carrey, famous actor and comedian. Did you know that Jim found himself in Los Angeles, trying to get some work. He used daily visualizations, until he decided to write a check to himself for ten million dollars dated 3 years in the future. This was in 1992. Three years later, he received a check for 10 million after the release of Dumb and Dumber. This was the turning point in his career.

You can see some of his thoughts on affirmations here:

Several self-help gurus today recommend daily affirmation for personal health and spiritual growth. If you want something to happen, and it is a good thing that will help humanity, all you have to do is “put it out there” and let the universe do with it as it will. The funny thing about this, is that you can’t micromanage the situation. If, for example, you want a red sports car, you can’t figure out how it’s going to happen. You can work towards it as you visualize it, but you can’t see all the intricate events that go on in order to make the car become yours. Sports cars don’t really help humanity (unless it’s electric!), but you get the gist.

One of my favorite affirmation gurus is Dr. Joe Dispenza. I previously wrote about him in my blog “Heal Thyself” https://wordpress.com/block-editor/post/debhead.home.blog/68 . He believes in “neuroplasticity”, meaning we can rewire our brains at any age, in order to live a more fulfilling life. He has a lot of useful meditations and exercises you can do to manifest your future. Check out his books on Amazon.

For myself, I rewrite my yearly goals and print them out on a small piece of paper, which is taped on the mirror in my bathroom. I continued doing this after the first year yielded positive results as far as financial goals, and made me a more positive person. Here are some of my goals:

What you believe will prosper

Your mind will be free

Doors of opportunity will open unexpectedly

You will be kind and generous to others

What has not worked will now succeed

Not all of my goals are listed here, as many are financially related. But I think you get the idea that “goals” are also “suggestions” for living which make me a happier, more giving person. I think we all need little suggestions once in awhile.

It doesn’t matter if you can’t really understand how affirmations and brain training in manifesting things work, what really matters is that at the core of your being, YOU BELIEVE EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE. That’s the catch, you see. For if you don’t truly believe that, then it won’t work. But, if you can get yourself into truly believing it works, and FEEL THE FEELING OF GRATEFULNESS AFTER IT DOES WORK….well, then, it will.

I hope you will investigate this magic further, that you will come up with suggestions or goals, you will place them on your mirror to read every day, and feel how grateful you are that they already happened in some quantum time, and will happen soon for you. You and I are amazing. We are so much more powerful than we know. Love and cheers, Deb

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Looky, Looky

Egyptian cosmetics

Have you stopped worrying about what you look like yet? How old are you, and do you really care? People tend to think the obsession with personal appearance has just ramped up this century, probably since the beginning of television, movies, and social media – that somehow we are more obsessed with our looks now more than ever. But I am here to tell you that the obsession with personal appearance has been going on for a lot longer than that. One article states that ancient Egyptians were so obsessed with their own appearance, that “some spells from The Egyptian Book of the Dead stipulate that one cannot speak them in the afterlife if one is not clean and presentable, and it is clear this means in a physical sense” (Ancient History Encyclopedia).

During the reign of Elizabeth I, the hot look every woman went for was a huge, freckle-free forehead….don’t we all? As soon as shaving was available, people started plucking, shaving, and shaping beards and hair on various body parts. The beard popularity cycle has gone up and down through the ages, usually influenced by the leaders of society. Women have endured physical pain to pull in their stomachs with rigid, laced bodices. We have also produced actual physical deformity with foot binding and the wearing of high heels. Personally, I had to give up this silliness with the last two foot surgeries.

What is it that makes us care what people think about our personal appearance? At what age will we finally stop caring, and start accepting the age and the condition we are in? The reason I am asking this question is, I have seen a few friends and acquaintances recently that care waaaayyyy too much for the age they are. One woman took a picture of herself in the most crazy fake eyelashes and almost black lipstick on her puffed-up lips and posted it to facebook with a caption stating something like: “just got a makeover”, or something like that. We didn’t know if it was a joke or real. Some thumbs up, but a couple of laughing faces. Just so you know….it was for real. She’s in her late 50’s. If I see a selfie of someone over the age of 40, I start to lose respect, unless they had to do it for a picture identification or something.

Since I work in an operating room, and we do a lot of plastic surgery, I get it. As a matter of fact, I have done a couple of things to improve the way I look. I was tired of spending my days helping other people achieve their dreams of reducing imperfection, and not helping myself, so I did. Not to worry, I haven’t done anything drastic. I have exercised my entire life, eat a good diet, and generally take care of myself. But I have a “stopping point”, so to speak. This is an inner level of tolerance for the amount of work I will do in order to look acceptable. I won’t get a facelift, or lipo, or work out 7 days a week, but that’s my line.

This is not to say that improvement is bad. Quite the opposite, improvement is just one of the ways we take pride in ourselves, display our positive self-image, and generally become a person whom others will not be repelled by. But at this time in my life, I’m starting to feel that for me, I have had just about enough. Not wearing makeup to the store – okay. Maybe not wearing makeup all day – okay. Not washing my hair before going to work – always okay because I wear a cap. Appreciating my stumpy, cellulite-ridden legs because they take me where I want to go. I feel gratitude I can walk, and dance, and touch my toes. Realizing I won’t be a bodybuilder – okay. Realizing I won’t climb a 14er or run a marathon, because I really don’t care and don’t want to put in the effort at my age – all okay.

I’m writing to you today to get some feedback. Where do you draw the line? Is it an age, or just a maturity level? Some people never seem to care, and I’ve noticed that the younger people are, the less they really care what someone else thinks. I feel this is a good thing, that maybe we are starting not to compare ourselves to others. Maybe we are starting to measure our self-worth by the deepness of our thoughts, or the openness of our hearts. Media be damned! It’s time to limit our exposure to toxic thought processes that do nothing to enhance our insides and well as our outsides.

Shoot me a comment, follow for more stuff, and have a great week. Cheers, Deb